A man of calm is like a shady tree.
People who need shelter come to it.
~ Toba Beta
Now for the third and final part of On being ‘Calm’. Here are my last few suggestions to help you get through those stressful days:
- When you have two quiet minutes, whether you are sitting at your office desk, waiting for the kids to come out of school or doing the garden, close your eyes. Image you are a large powerful bird, and you are flying high above the clouds. Swoop and dive, feel the freedom, glide on a current of air. No problems or worry dwell in this special place only peace and calm. Take some slow deep breaths and enjoy this moment. When you are ready open your eyes and carry on with your day. Remember you can return here as often as you like.
- A great way to relax is to place a warm wet towel over your face. Lie down and close you eyes for a few minutes and just relax. Enjoy!
- One thing that disrupts our calm is jumping to conclusions. We do it all the time without examining the facts and being realistic. It’s a programmed response to assume the worst. Don’t be a self saboteur it is a waste of time and makes us tense. Give others the benefit of the doubt if they haven’t done what you expected them to or if someone says something you find sends you off on a tangent. Be compassionate to yourself and others.
- Make sure you drink plenty if you are experiencing hot weather to avoid dehydration. Dehydration affects thinking, causes headaches and nausea, constipation and irritability. The exact opposite of what we want to achieve.
Avoid fizzy drinks loaded with sugar, instead drink plenty of water. I am not a big fan of water and usually drink squash or flavoured water, which is fine also.
Avoid too much caffeine and alcohol as it acts as a diuretic, which leads to excessive urination also causing dehydration.
- Take a mind holiday ~ Take a few minutes in a quiet place to recapture a time when you have felt really calm and happy. Close your eyes and relive the time you sat on the beach and felt at peace, maybe you were watching the sun go down over the ocean or taking a walk in a cool tranquil wood. There is no right or wrong place to relive your happy experience in. Some people find it difficult to remember times like these. Why not make a note of it and visit later?
- Got five minutes to spare? Then try some simple hand reflexology. Grip your left index finger with your right hand and squeeze. Hold it until you can feel your heart beat then release. Repeat with middle finger until you feel your pulse. Repeat with ring finger and little finger. Repeat on the right hand. Very relaxing after effects.
- Listening to Calm relaxing music before you go to sleep can produce deep restful sleep.
- Got a stress headache? Why not try hot water relief. Fill the sink with water as hot as you can stand to put your hands in. Immerse your hands in the water and leave them there for several minutes as the water is cooling. The theory behind this is that the blood rushes to your hands and away from your head relieving the headache. Hopefully calm is restored.
- Stop worrying so much. Thought stopping using the traffic light method is very helpful but needs to be done regularly to be effective. Each time a worrying though come to mind imagine a set of traffic lights on green and think your worrying thought and turn to red. Process your though and stop thinking it and change the traffic lights back to green.
Like I said in Part One, it is very much in your hands how you feel in your day. You can’t change what happens but you can change how you choose to react to it.
I hope you have benefited from this blog on being Calm and it helps you on your journey to a much more peaceful life.